Welcome To
A Broken To Beautiful Life
The Focus Is Simple: Letting Go of Broken Habits, Rekindling Relationships,
and Building A Beautiful Life in Christ.
Are You Struggling With:
- Communication & Connection
Many of my clients come to me with communication struggles. For some, it’s their marriage. For others, it’s a relationship with a parent, a friend, or even colleagues. No matter the situation, the core issue is often the same: they're having trouble truly connecting.
I get it—I’ve been there. I’ve struggled with letting my wife down in the worst ways. I betrayed her trust with pornography and couldn’t find the words to tell her I was struggling. The fear of hurting her kept me silent, and that silence hurt us both far more than the truth ever could.
True communication is about trust. It’s about finding the courage to say the hard things and the wisdom to listen. Trust was shattered for me every time I touched my phone, every time a younger woman passed by, or when we watched a movie together. Rebuilding that trust wasn’t just about what I said—it was about being present and truly seeing my wife.
Real connection comes from the small moments. It’s not the grand gestures or expensive dates—it’s the little things. A glance, a soft word, a moment of care. Connection can be built in these small, tender moments, and that’s what I’ll help you rediscover in your relationships.
Let me tell you about Jim and Tara (names changed for privacy purposes). Jim had been struggling with a long-standing habit of watching pornography. When Tara discovered it, she was devastated. Despite his promises to stop, he broke her trust again and again, leaving her feeling crushed by betrayal. By the time they came to me, Tara had decided to leave. Jim was desperate to save their marriage, but his overwhelming emotions and ineffective communication only created more misunderstandings. Tara, viewing him through the lens of distrust and hurt, struggled to hear or believe his words.
Our work began with building empathy—creating a safe space where both felt heard and understood. In our first session, we focused on ensuring Tara’s feelings were validated and helping Jim respond without fear of saying the “wrong” thing. This allowed Tara to see a side of Jim she hadn’t seen before: someone willing to fight for their connection. That initial shift in understanding gave Tara the hope and courage to stay and continue working on their relationship.
- Betrayal & Addiction
I also work with people who are struggling with pornography. Pornography can create a sense of shame, erode self-confidence, and cause a rift in relationships. Many men I’ve worked with feel they’ve lost their ability to communicate with their spouse or partner because of the shame and guilt surrounding their addiction.
I know the struggle intimately. My own battle with pornography started years ago, and I can tell you—getting free wasn’t easy. I tried everything—groups, self-help, prayer—but nothing seemed to work. The turning point came when I had a real reason to stop: my relationship with my wife and my faith in Christ.
Here’s the truth: to break free from addiction, you need to first truly want to let go. I’ll help you find that reason and guide you through the process. We’ll use proven methods to help you leave pornography behind once and for all. But it requires commitment, and I’m here to walk that road with you.
Betrayal leaves deep scars, and for Tara, those wounds ran deep. She wanted to process her pain through conversation, while Jim’s shame pushed him to avoid the topic altogether. Their clashing coping mechanisms created even more distance between them, reinforcing a cycle of hurt and withdrawal. Jim had tried various methods to quit pornography before—books, groups, even therapy—but nothing seemed to work. He felt disconnected from the strategies being offered, and his shame kept pulling him back into old patterns.
When we began working together, I suggested a dual approach: helping Jim overcome his habit while addressing the relational damage caused by his behavior. As Jim learned to confront his shame and uncover the root causes of his struggle, Tara began to see hope that change was possible. Together, we worked on rebuilding trust and repairing the foundation of their relationship, one step at a time.
- Shame, Confidence, & Connection
Shame, low self-confidence, and unforgiveness often stem from deep-seated struggles with our own worth. Society has taught us to judge ourselves harshly based on impossible standards, especially with the rise of social media and the constant comparison to curated, edited lives.
But what if you could break free from that cycle? It starts with understanding the root of your struggles. Often, it's not the external judgment that hurts us most; it's the way we judge ourselves. It’s easy to walk through life feeling insignificant, but God offers us a new identity in Christ—one that frees us from shame.
I know it’s not easy. I’ve seen it firsthand—how shame can isolate you and hold you back from being the person God has created you to be. But I’m here to tell you: You are not alone. Christ offers us healing, forgiveness, and transformation.
In Mark 5:25-34, we see the story of a woman who had been suffering for years. She had tried everything, but nothing worked until she touched the hem of Jesus’ garment. Her faith healed her, and she was set free from her suffering. Just like her, you can experience healing—through Christ and through open communication with those you trust.
Shame and unforgiveness can be paralyzing, and both Jim and Tara were stuck in their own way. Jim’s shame made him feel unworthy of Tara’s trust, and he avoided vulnerability for fear of rejection. Tara, carrying the pain of repeated betrayal, struggled to forgive, leaving them both trapped in a cycle of silence and resentment.
Our work focused on breaking these barriers. Jim learned to confront his shame and approach conversations with honesty and vulnerability, while Tara discovered ways to process her pain without feeling dismissed. Forgiveness took time, but as Jim rebuilt his confidence through accountability and change, Tara began to see him not as the man who hurt her, but as someone capable of transformation. Together, they rebuilt trust and created a new path forward, rooted in understanding and connection.
What You'll Gain
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Grow Closer To Christ
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Cultivate Compassion
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Practice Selfless Consideration
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Improve Communication
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Strengthen Connection
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Build Consistency
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Conquer Confidence
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Build Realistic Standards
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Discover The Real You
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Build An Overcoming And Achieving Mindset
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Learn To Live A Healthier Common-Sense Lifestyle
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Learn To Say No In A Healthy Way
What Are You Looking For In A Coach?
1 / I don't waste time-clients want to see results now, and I help them do that.
2 / I approach all struggles from a Christ-centered perspective, building a deeper relationship with Jesus.
3 / I allow time for you to think and share ideas, and I keep up with your journey.
4 / Clients appreciate how I understand them, validate their feelings, and help them express themselves clearly.
5 / I give honest feedback—no sugarcoating, but always with love.
6 / I’m on time and respectful of your time. If I’m late, I’ll let you know ahead of time.
7 / Our time together feels like a conversation with teaching and practical tools to accelerate your progress.
8 / I help you build hope for the future so you can focus on making progress rather than worrying.
9 / I’m balanced and fair, understanding both perspectives and helping your partner understand as well.
10 / We work at your speed—whether you need to go faster or need more time to process, I’m here for you.
Are We A Good Fit?
I’m looking for people who are ready for change now. You have to want it. I’ll help you every step of the way, but you need to be open to new ideas and willing to put in the work. Showing up is only half the job; the rest is doing the work. If you’re not ready to make a change, let’s save everyone’s time and energy.
What To Expect
Step 1: Schedule your first session! It's free, no strings attached, and I'll call you.
Step 2: We will understand and improving your situation trough honesty, love, and practicing new skills.
Step 3: Determine which plan works best for you which will vary based number of people and goals.
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How long are the sessions?Each session is 45 minutes.
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What should I expect from our first call?We’ll get to know each other, discuss your struggles, and begin creating a plan for moving forward.
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How long will it take to see results?Results depend on the individual, but with commitment, you’ll begin to see progress within the first few sessions.
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Can I schedule my sessions at a time that works for me?Yes! You can select a time that’s most convenient for your schedule.
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Do you work with couples or individuals?I work with both individuals and couples, focusing on communication and building stronger relationships.
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What if I need more time between sessions?We can adjust the pace based on your needs. If you need more time to process, that’s okay.
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How do I know this will work for me?I provide practical tools and Christ-centered guidance, but you have to commit to doing the work. If you're ready, it will make a difference.
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How do I know this will work for me?I provide practical tools and Christ-centered guidance, but you have to commit to doing the work. If you're ready, it will make a difference.
About Me
Hello! My name is James Hammack and I have been in the coaching world for over 10 years. I have worked with many families, couples, and singles throughout the years on their listening, communication, and trust-building skills. Ever since I was very young, I have had an affinity for listening and studying people with a passion to help in a way most people struggle with. Listening and empathizing are my specialties and I use my skills to get down to the root of relationship issues. Married for over 15 years, I've had my share of struggles and understand what it's like to be facing relationship difficulties. I am passionate about helping people in all walks of life improve their relationships, grow in their faith, and learn to communicate and listen to their loved ones to repair and restore. I look forward to joining you on your journey to a broken to beautiful life.
